I have been thinking about how exhausting it is to perform competence all the time — at work, socially, online, even around family. There is a particular freedom in no longer needing every room to think you are impressive. Have you reached that point yet, or are you still working on it?

Every friend group has one person who refuses to rest until everyone has watched the show she is obsessed with. I am currently that person. What are you watching right now that you need the rest of us to catch up on? No spoilers, please.

Mine was that being good at your job would automatically make people notice, reward, and promote you. It took me too long to understand that visibility, boundaries, negotiation, relationships, and knowing when to leave matter too. What career advice sounded wise when you were younger but does not hold up anymore?